Man Skills

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No flowery prose today.

No big speech.

No giving it your all.

No trying.

No “moral victories”.
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I think that every day has the opportunity to be a great day… until something screws it up. Life happens, but more often than not what screws up a formerly great day is us.

Taking the “you factor” out and having a great day is facilitated if you start it off right, which is a whole lot easier if you’ve got a solid morning ritual down. Whatever gets your morning motor running, be it breakfast, meditation, stretching, coffee or something else, establishing a morning ritual will get your head right and put your day in the direction you need.

*****Note that staggering to the bathroom is not quite what I mean by “morning ritual”, although by all means, do what you need to do.*****

Those who just roll out of bed and either rush off to a job or just laze around will tend to have a hard time getting established throughout the day.
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A subject I preach about over and over is setting and accomplishing goals. In my mind, if a man doesn’t know what he’s trying to accomplish then he has almost no chance of truly accomplishing much of anything noteworthy. If you can’t do something noteworthy, then are you really living your life to its full potential?

It’s not just about setting concrete goals, though. If you don’t have the balls and staying power to overcome obstacles and crush the work required then there’s little chance of achieving the goal you’ve set, no matter how specific it is. Write that down, my friends, the secret of a great man’s life can be summed up in a couple of words: “Balls” and “Accomplishment”.

In light of that, one of the best ways to keep on task for a goal is to a) write it down, and b) grow a set of balls get it out to the world. Tell your friends, tell your spouse, tell the guy that hates you at work (that asshole will definitely keep up with your progress hoping to see you fail), or… tell the internet.

So to put my money where my Internet mouth is and also so you can see some of the craziness that I get up to in life, I’ve got a few of my personal goals to share today. I actually keep a running list of goals broken down into three categories: Short-term (three months or less, anything much under three months I consider to be more of a task than a goal), Mid-range (one year or less), and Long-term (several years or lifetime). Rather than post the entire list, especially since some are pretty personal, I’ll just drop some highlights.

Here’s my goals and my “why’s”.
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Like a lot of coaches, I have a handful of “pet” phrases, cues, and quotes that I tend to bring out.  When I’m talking to my clients or having a conversation there are a few that seem to come up pretty regularly.  Usually I don’t notice it or think it’s that obvious until a client starts mimicking one back at me (this is right before I they end up doing extra push-ups).  It’s not that I can’t think of something original to say, trust me, it’s that these cues work.

One of my favorite lines that you’ll never hear me apologize for using is “Strength is a skill”.  I use it a lot, tag most of my emails with it, and firmly believe it.  I’d like to claim that I originated the quote, but I know that I heard it from someone back in the day, but I honestly can’t remember who coined the phrase (if anyone knows then shoot me a line).  Regardless of its root, I think this quote best sums up my training and life philosophy in one succinct message.
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All right, it’s time to finish up this series on how to clean up muscle tightness and dysfunction issues using Self-myofascial Release (SMR).

*****For an idea of what SMR is check out the first post in the series here. To learn a couple of quick lower body techniques that will have your back and knees feeling better go for the second article here.*****

As I went over in those two posts, SMR is pretty awesome for working on the big muscle groups of the lower body and fixing a lot of issues. What most people don’t know is that you can do it on the upper body as well and really get into some tight spots that can result in shoulder, elbow, or neck pain, headaches, and general a lack of growth and mobility.
Read more on If It Hurts Just Put Your Balls On It! Part III…

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When you push yourself in the gym or on the playing field for any length of time eventually you’re going to get some aches and pains. As a performance coach I always have clients bitching about being sore and walking in with some variation of “my elbow/shoulder/knee/pussy hurts!”. Sometimes this is just a result of a hard game or training session, sometimes it’s a client trying to be lazy, and sometimes there’s actually something wrong. The bottom line is that if you’re taking things to the limit then sooner or later something’s going to hurt. As a result of dealing with this type of thing a lot in my own training as well as working with clients, I’ve gotten pretty good at playing “Mr. Fix-it” when my clients have a minor situation.
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Holy crap, finishing this list has been a long time coming! I’ve been taking a break from writing while focusing on some sudden changes in my face-to-face business and taking advantage of the opportunities there-in. My apologies, as I should have finished this series of posts first!

Anyway, in case you missed it, I recently turned 31 and in light of that have compiled 31 things I’ve learned about life, strength and conditioning, business, and relationships. Here’s Part I and Part II.

And now, let’s finish the list!
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In honor of my recently-passed 31st birthday I’ve come up with 31 things I’ve picked up over the past 31 years. I posted the first eleven here. On to the next ten!
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Not to date myself, but I recently celebrated my 31st birthday. There’s no real societal significance to the 31st birthday. I mean, it’s not like number 16, where you’re allowed to get your driver’s license here in the States. It’s not nearly as exciting as 18 where you sign up for Selective Service (if you’re a male) and immediately go to your nearest convenience store to purchase the Taboo Trifecta (a lottery ticket, a pack of smokes, and a Playboy). Number 31 is especially not as cool as Number 21, which is the legal drinking age in the U.S. and you go out with your buddies to abuse yourself with newly-legal-for-you-to-purchase alcohol.

***As a side note on Birthday Number 21, speaking as a long-time Door Man: Trust me, the bouncer at the door is not nearly as excited as you are for your birthday. Do not expect him to be. He might be a little more interested if you’re female and decided to celebrate by wearing a really low-cut shirt, but honestly even then he just wants you to shut up and go in the bar.***

Any way you wanna slice it Number 31 pretty much just marks off another year. However, the occasion of my birthday has given me some cause and time to reflect a little bit. In that reflection I sort of haphazardly started coming up with a list of observations, ideas, and things I’ve learned over the past 31 years. At first I thought I might be able to come up with a good “Top 10” list, but soon I found it swelling to the point where I’ve had to cut it down to get 31 things in 31 years.

Without further preamble and in not much of a particular order, here they are 31 things I’ve learned in my 31 years.
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I don’t watch a whole lot of television, but last night after the monster Easter feast I sort of plunked down in front of the tube, three-quarters asleep, and zoned out for a while. After a little bit of channel surfing in my carb-induced stupor I came on one of these entrepreneurial shows that sort of caught my interest.

Chef Bobby Flay, of Food Network fame, has apparently got some sort of reality/competition show (Google tells me that it’s fittingly titled: “America’s Next Great Restaurant”) that takes entrepreneurs in the food business and puts them through a variety of challenges, with the winner earning a restaurant chain.

Given that I’m a fan of both food and business, as well as having worked in the bar industry for a long time, this actually kept my attention.
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