Confidence and Overcoming Adversity

Posts about confidence and overcoming adversity.

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Not to date myself, but I recently celebrated my 31st birthday. There’s no real societal significance to the 31st birthday. I mean, it’s not like number 16, where you’re allowed to get your driver’s license here in the States. It’s not nearly as exciting as 18 where you sign up for Selective Service (if you’re a male) and immediately go to your nearest convenience store to purchase the Taboo Trifecta (a lottery ticket, a pack of smokes, and a Playboy). Number 31 is especially not as cool as Number 21, which is the legal drinking age in the U.S. and you go out with your buddies to abuse yourself with newly-legal-for-you-to-purchase alcohol.

***As a side note on Birthday Number 21, speaking as a long-time Door Man: Trust me, the bouncer at the door is not nearly as excited as you are for your birthday. Do not expect him to be. He might be a little more interested if you’re female and decided to celebrate by wearing a really low-cut shirt, but honestly even then he just wants you to shut up and go in the bar.***

Any way you wanna slice it Number 31 pretty much just marks off another year. However, the occasion of my birthday has given me some cause and time to reflect a little bit. In that reflection I sort of haphazardly started coming up with a list of observations, ideas, and things I’ve learned over the past 31 years. At first I thought I might be able to come up with a good “Top 10” list, but soon I found it swelling to the point where I’ve had to cut it down to get 31 things in 31 years.

Without further preamble and in not much of a particular order, here they are 31 things I’ve learned in my 31 years.
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I don’t watch a whole lot of television, but last night after the monster Easter feast I sort of plunked down in front of the tube, three-quarters asleep, and zoned out for a while. After a little bit of channel surfing in my carb-induced stupor I came on one of these entrepreneurial shows that sort of caught my interest.

Chef Bobby Flay, of Food Network fame, has apparently got some sort of reality/competition show (Google tells me that it’s fittingly titled: “America’s Next Great Restaurant”) that takes entrepreneurs in the food business and puts them through a variety of challenges, with the winner earning a restaurant chain.

Given that I’m a fan of both food and business, as well as having worked in the bar industry for a long time, this actually kept my attention.
Read more on Know the Wisdom In Your Limitations – Make It Happen Monday…

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Ok, so that’s a pretty loaded title for Make It Happen Monday but what I want to talk about today is becoming a lost art. There’s an old saying that goes to the effect of “you were given two ears and one mouth, and you should use them in that order”. Most everyone has heard this saying before, but how many people really apply it? It seems that the ears are getting lost in the flapping of everyone’s mouths.
Read more on Use Your Parts – Make It Happen Monday…

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One of the members of the HTKA community just launched his first blog post today and in it talked about taking action and finding success regardless of those who may speak against you. I commented on the post, as you’ll see, adding that in addition to leaving those who try to drag you down behind then you also need to seek out those who do have a congruent mindset.
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I’ve written about this before, but I feel that it bears repeating every once in a while because people seem to be afraid to do it. I’m talking about taking the brakes off and cutting the drag lines out of your life. Whether these things that are dragging you down happen to be people, a situation, an item, unnecessary debt, or whatever, it doesn’t matter. If something ruins your day, then it flat-out needs to go.
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Like pretty much everyone in America I was floating around Facebook the other day and a group title flashed up on my newsfeed. This group was titled “Inside Every Old Person Is a Younger Person Wondering What the Fuck Happened“. At first I kind of chuckled as it was a bit of a funny title, but then I let what the words meant sink in and really started to think on their meaning. The more I thought about it the more and more I felt my blood pressure rising. I was literally sitting there in the office, fingers on keys not typing, with a whole gym going on around me, and getting mad as hell. We’re talking I was heated after a few minutes!
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The other night I found myself sitting at the back table of a surprisingly-good-for-a-small-city Irish pub sharing a couple of Murphy’s and some good conversation with one of my old friends from grad school.

As a bit of background, “Big N” and I met while working a summer job where we both played the black sheep and bonded over the obvious fact that we were the two guys who were known for taking action and getting things done rather than simply “playing the game”. We see eye to eye on a lot of life philosophies and he’s one my favorite people to bounce ideas off of as, while he can be somewhat unorthodox in his approach, he has an uncanny ability to see through problems and reach a solution.
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This weekend I sat down and went through one of my simultaneously favorite and most hated exercises: I asked myself the tough questions.

Before I get into the questions themselves, I want to talk a little bit about complacency.
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Ok, there’s something that you’ve been wrestling with for a while now. You’ve done your research. You’ve weighed your options. You’ve made your list of pros and cons.
Read more on Man Up and Make a Decision – Make It Happen Monday…

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There’s a lot that goes into being a man in today’s society and being good at it. If you’re really trying to maximize your potential in life (and if you’re not, then why are you here?) then you should be consistently growing in all areas of your life. You should be learning and improving your mind regularly. You should be examining your life and your ideals and further defining yourself. And you should be developing the strongest, fittest body that you can.

I’m probably preaching to the choir here, but if strength training isn’t a fixture in your life then here are some things to think about:
Read more on The Importance of Strength and Muscle Building to Being a Man…