Confidence and Overcoming Adversity

Posts about confidence and overcoming adversity.

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All around you there’s a conflict going on. I’m not talking about the wars, the protests, or the “movements” that the newscasters spend their time crowing about, filled with false dismay and barely-concealed glee. Such matters as these are the domain of nations and groups. Instead I’m talking about something far more subversive and inclusive to us all. I’m talking about a conflict within our society, and like it or not you’re smack dab in the middle of it. In fact, if I were to wager, as a reader of this site you’re very clearly on one side over the other.
Read more on The Number ONE Difference Between Us and Them…

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There’s a situation that I’m seeing a lot of and quite frankly, it’s frustrating to me. I see it happening in the gym. I see it when I talk to people on the street. *****Ok, I don’t actually talk to people on the street because I’m kind of jerky, but I talk to people at various places throughout my day***** I definitely see it happen online.

I’m talking about a HUGE disparity between what people profess that they want to achieve and their actual day-to-day behaviors. I just don’t get it.
Read more on Does Your Behavior Match Your Goals?…

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A challenge that my clients, myself, and lots of other people deal with frequently is lack of focus. This happens a lot before doing work you’ve been trying to avoid, a particularly important performance, or even just throughout the day. While it’s easy to say “just focus”, putting the “just focus” advice into practice is not always achievable.
Read more on A Quick Tip to Improve Mental Focus…

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Last night we experienced the closest thing the state of Maine has had to a hurricane in quite some time. Despite warnings from the meteorologists and other assorted media hysteria-mongers, Hurricane Irene limped into the state as a tropical storm, dropped a fair amount of rain and blew over a few trees. This resulted in some power outages and general inconvenience for everyone, but didn’t really cause a ton of heavy damage here.

Other areas of the East Coast didn’t get off so lightly, but in general Irene didn’t live up to the hype that was built around it. Such is the way of media and sometimes (luckily) the way of storms. Having spent time in the southern U.S., I am a little more aware of what hurricanes can do (and I didn’t even go through a major one when I was down there) than a lot of my northern neighbors tend to be. So in light of different perspectives, it’s been interesting to watch the build up to the storm and how people are reacting.
Read more on Observations From Hurricane Irene…

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A few days ago I posted a quick question to my Facebook Page
which read:

“What is one thing the (now older and wiser) you of today would like to tell the you of 5, 10, or 15 years ago… assuming that young you would actually follow the advice?”

I got some great responses (great enough to post it to my personal page, too, for more input) and some of them got me thinking about what I’d say myself. I honestly hadn’t thought of any of my own answers when I posed the question as I was curious about others’ thoughts. However, given that I went ahead and asked, I guess it’s only fair that I come up with my own answers.
Read more on “Write That Down” – The Van Wilder Moments…

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No flowery prose today.

No big speech.

No giving it your all.

No trying.

No “moral victories”.
Read more on Did the Bar Come Off the Ground?…

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A subject I preach about over and over is setting and accomplishing goals. In my mind, if a man doesn’t know what he’s trying to accomplish then he has almost no chance of truly accomplishing much of anything noteworthy. If you can’t do something noteworthy, then are you really living your life to its full potential?

It’s not just about setting concrete goals, though. If you don’t have the balls and staying power to overcome obstacles and crush the work required then there’s little chance of achieving the goal you’ve set, no matter how specific it is. Write that down, my friends, the secret of a great man’s life can be summed up in a couple of words: “Balls” and “Accomplishment”.

In light of that, one of the best ways to keep on task for a goal is to a) write it down, and b) grow a set of balls get it out to the world. Tell your friends, tell your spouse, tell the guy that hates you at work (that asshole will definitely keep up with your progress hoping to see you fail), or… tell the internet.

So to put my money where my Internet mouth is and also so you can see some of the craziness that I get up to in life, I’ve got a few of my personal goals to share today. I actually keep a running list of goals broken down into three categories: Short-term (three months or less, anything much under three months I consider to be more of a task than a goal), Mid-range (one year or less), and Long-term (several years or lifetime). Rather than post the entire list, especially since some are pretty personal, I’ll just drop some highlights.

Here’s my goals and my “why’s”.
Read more on A Look At My Goals – The Plan for Continued Awesomeness…

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Like a lot of coaches, I have a handful of “pet” phrases, cues, and quotes that I tend to bring out.  When I’m talking to my clients or having a conversation there are a few that seem to come up pretty regularly.  Usually I don’t notice it or think it’s that obvious until a client starts mimicking one back at me (this is right before I they end up doing extra push-ups).  It’s not that I can’t think of something original to say, trust me, it’s that these cues work.

One of my favorite lines that you’ll never hear me apologize for using is “Strength is a skill”.  I use it a lot, tag most of my emails with it, and firmly believe it.  I’d like to claim that I originated the quote, but I know that I heard it from someone back in the day, but I honestly can’t remember who coined the phrase (if anyone knows then shoot me a line).  Regardless of its root, I think this quote best sums up my training and life philosophy in one succinct message.
Read more on Strength Is a Skill…

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Holy crap, finishing this list has been a long time coming! I’ve been taking a break from writing while focusing on some sudden changes in my face-to-face business and taking advantage of the opportunities there-in. My apologies, as I should have finished this series of posts first!

Anyway, in case you missed it, I recently turned 31 and in light of that have compiled 31 things I’ve learned about life, strength and conditioning, business, and relationships. Here’s Part I and Part II.

And now, let’s finish the list!
Read more on 31 Things I’ve Learned in 31 Years – Part III…

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In honor of my recently-passed 31st birthday I’ve come up with 31 things I’ve picked up over the past 31 years. I posted the first eleven here. On to the next ten!
Read more on 31 Things I’ve Learned in 31 Years – Part II…