Confidence and Overcoming Adversity

Posts about confidence and overcoming adversity.


hack the unessential - bruce leeI get questions every day from my clients asking about some product, information bit, or training program they read about or saw an ad for online, in the paper, heard on the radio, or whatever.  Information and advertising is pretty much unavoidable in today’s world.  You’re taking in some info right now by reading this, for example.

I’m not trying to cast judgment on it or say that it’s all good or bad.  As I talked about last week, most everything falls on a spectrum somewhere.  What I am trying to say is that there’s a lot of it.

There’s so much info, in fact, that the tendency is to take all that information and do little to nothing with it (paralysis by analysis) OR to excitedly jump into the next best thing until a few minutes, days, or weeks later when the NEXT best thing comes along (Shiny Object Syndrome).  Either way you end up spinning your wheels and not making any real progress from where you are now towards what you’ve set for your goals.

This shit happens all the time in the fitness or nutrition world, but also in business/work life and relationships, as well.

I’m preface my next piece of advice by saying that, believe it or not, I’m human and I am not perfect at it, but here’s what’s been helping me:
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The One Rule of FitnessSo, I’ve pretty much taken a couple of years off from Internet writing.  A lot has happened in that time, and I have to say that it was mostly good.  Primarily, I’ve used the time to build my brick and mortar training business (Relentless Strength Training).  Sprinkle in a little relationship upheaval (resulting in some true learning) and combine it with some great and not so great times with my family and friends and a couple of years goes by way too fast.  You know, it’s been a real life.

Mostly, there’s been a couple of years of introspection, success, mistakes, mistakes repeated until learning improved, clients trained, some excellent steaks and beers consumed, cities traveled to, heartbreak, weights lifted, body parts injured, life-altering conversations had, people helped, miles rucked, smack talked, slices of humble pie delivered and consumed, and time spent with the greatest human beings I know.

While there’s lots of great lessons I’m dying to teach you that I’ve picked up along the way, ranging from how to get more “pop” in your Olympic lifts to The Secret of Life (ok, still working on that one), there is one that has become the basis of my training and nutrition principles, business paths, and really my life in general:
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Those who know me can attest that I spend a lot of time pinching my nose between pages, and as such I’m asked reasonably often about the books that I read. While I love books (I had an ex that thought that the funniest answer I’d ever given to a survey question regarding my favorite childhood toy was “books”) and would recommend that you read any you can get your hands on, there are a few that I consider “essential”.

Steven Pressfield is a generally a historical fiction author but more than that he’s a student of the process of writing and creation. His fiction is quite good, but it’s his advice for the aspiring creator (author, artist, singer, whatever) that is truly special.
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Sit down and strap up, kids. Today I’m going to teach you how to prepare and eat your very own elephant burger. That’s right. Dumbo Crammed In a Bun.

How’s that for a teaser? I’m eagerly awaiting the hate email from wildlife groups.
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I had something I’ve been planning to talk about today for a while but I’m afraid it’s going to have to wait. Last night I had a discussion that quite frankly pissed me off a bit but also teaches a pretty good lesson, so that’s what I want to address today.

Ok, so The Woman is looking for a trainer. The first question I’m sure you have is: “Why doesn’t she train with you?“. Fair question. There’s a couple of reasons. First of all, we live far enough apart to make that inconvenient. Second, and most importantly: Training your significant other rarely works out well. (All you veteran trainers out there are nodding your head.) Some things just plain don’t mix, and the romantic and training relationship is usually a combo that provides more friction than success.
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Because I’m one lucky SOB I spent the weekend surrounded by some of the best in the fitness business and some bright new up and comers. As usual, some great information was shared and this time around I pulled a lot of aspects of the proper mindset from it. One presentation in particular really hit me. To be honest, it F’ed me up a little. I’d like to share some of that with you and hopefully you can pull something from it, too.
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Help other people“, they say.

Give of yourself“, they say.

If you help other people be better, you’ll be better“, they say.

There’s lots of that type of advice out there from “they”. I’ve even said some of these things myself.

Pretty much every major religion espouses a similar ideal of being a person who lives in service to others. Charity organizations, whether genuine or tax shelters, abound in our society. We even have a “Golden Rule” which states that we should “do unto others as we’d have do unto us“. It all sounds great and most of it revolves around you subjugating your own needs and desires for those of other people.
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A little over a month ago I had something happen here at the gym that I don’t experience very often. I had someone join, come in for one session, and quit.

I know this isn’t an earth-shattering event and it happens all of the time in most gyms and training facilities. But it doesn’t happen at Relentless. It doesn’t happen to me.
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In the animal world, there’s a natural order of things. Animals are put in basic classes based largely on what they eat and how they do it.

In general it goes a little something like this:
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So I’ve been pretty quiet on this site for a while. As I’ve mentioned, I opened up my own training facility and needless to say, that’s kept me pretty busy! Overall, I’m excited for the new opportunity and things are going really, really well. That’s in no small part due to the support I’ve received from a lot of you readers, people I’ve met through the business, and my amazing clients, friends, and family. I’m pretty blessed to have such awesome people in my life.

Ok, now that the nicey-nice stuff is out of the way, I can go back to being my usual acerbic self.

So yeah, I finally did it. After much prodding from my friends, clients, and mentors I saw an opportunity, and realized I’d been not following my own advice by trying to straddle two worlds. I reached down, grabbed my testosterone parts with both hands, and put my shingle out there. Relentless Strength Training officially has a home now. And to the three people I can think of who told me for years that I should “just be a writer because you’ll never own your own facility”: Suck it.

So everything is rosy, right?

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