Confidence and Overcoming Adversity
Posts about confidence and overcoming adversity.
Those who know me can attest that I spend a lot of time pinching my nose between pages, and as such I’m asked reasonably often about the books that I read. While I love books (I had an ex that thought that the funniest answer I’d ever given to a survey question regarding my favorite childhood toy was “books”) and would recommend that you read any you can get your hands on, there are a few that I consider “essential”.
Steven Pressfield is a generally a historical fiction author but more than that he’s a student of the process of writing and creation. His fiction is quite good, but it’s his advice for the aspiring creator (author, artist, singer, whatever) that is truly special.
Read more on Make It Happen Monday – Facing Mr. Resistance…
I had something I’ve been planning to talk about today for a while but I’m afraid it’s going to have to wait. Last night I had a discussion that quite frankly pissed me off a bit but also teaches a pretty good lesson, so that’s what I want to address today.
Ok, so The Woman is looking for a trainer. The first question I’m sure you have is: “Why doesn’t she train with you?“. Fair question. There’s a couple of reasons. First of all, we live far enough apart to make that inconvenient. Second, and most importantly: Training your significant other rarely works out well. (All you veteran trainers out there are nodding your head.) Some things just plain don’t mix, and the romantic and training relationship is usually a combo that provides more friction than success.
Read more on Make It Happen Monday – The Strong Don’t Fear Competition…
Because I’m one lucky SOB I spent the weekend surrounded by some of the best in the fitness business and some bright new up and comers. As usual, some great information was shared and this time around I pulled a lot of aspects of the proper mindset from it. One presentation in particular really hit me. To be honest, it F’ed me up a little. I’d like to share some of that with you and hopefully you can pull something from it, too.
Read more on Make It Happen Monday – Where’s Your Genius?…
“Give of yourself“, they say.
“If you help other people be better, you’ll be better“, they say.
There’s lots of that type of advice out there from “they”. I’ve even said some of these things myself.
Pretty much every major religion espouses a similar ideal of being a person who lives in service to others. Charity organizations, whether genuine or tax shelters, abound in our society. We even have a “Golden Rule” which states that we should “do unto others as we’d have do unto us“. It all sounds great and most of it revolves around you subjugating your own needs and desires for those of other people.
Read more on Make It Happen Monday – Put Your Mask On First…
I know this isn’t an earth-shattering event and it happens all of the time in most gyms and training facilities. But it doesn’t happen at Relentless. It doesn’t happen to me.
Read more on Make It Happen Monday – Quitters…
In general it goes a little something like this:
Read more on Make It Happen Monday – Top of the Food Chain…
So I’ve been pretty quiet on this site for a while. As I’ve mentioned, I opened up my own training facility and needless to say, that’s kept me pretty busy! Overall, I’m excited for the new opportunity and things are going really, really well. That’s in no small part due to the support I’ve received from a lot of you readers, people I’ve met through the business, and my amazing clients, friends, and family. I’m pretty blessed to have such awesome people in my life.
Ok, now that the nicey-nice stuff is out of the way, I can go back to being my usual acerbic self.
So yeah, I finally did it. After much prodding from my friends, clients, and mentors I saw an opportunity, and realized I’d been not following my own advice by trying to straddle two worlds. I reached down, grabbed my testosterone parts with both hands, and put my shingle out there. Relentless Strength Training officially has a home now. And to the three people I can think of who told me for years that I should “just be a writer because you’ll never own your own facility”: Suck it.
So everything is rosy, right?
Read more on Make It Happen Monday – The Plunge…
This weekend I took part in the Tough Mountain Challenge at Sunday River Ski Resort in Newry, ME. That’s right, I ran UP a ski mountain in July! Seriously, this is one of those obstacle course races that have become pretty popular lately, and for good reason: It was awesome!
Let me tell you what, though:
Read more on Make It Happen Monday – Alone We Fall…
One of the most common stumbling blocks for people is that they get caught up in the process of everything, rather than the actual achievement of a goal. I’m watching it happen right now to one of my friends. He has a very concrete goal. In this case it’s weight loss and there’s not much easier to measure success on that weight loss. You have a scale, time, and an end number. As time goes on, is the scale getting closer to the end number, or not?
In this case… not. I believe that for the most part he wants to achieve his goal. He has the knowledge to do it. He has extraordinary social support AND social obligation. And yet he’s not really been making much progress, despite “doing the right things”.
Read more on Make It Happen Monday – Achievement’s Starting Block…